Becoming a Family Through AdoptionBy Sandra Knispel | Published 28 Nov 2011 09:05am |
Nationwide more than 100,000 children languish in foster care, waiting for a permanent family. November is national adoption month and MPB’s Sandra Knispel in Oxford filed this story with a happy ending.
Bill Taylor, a 32-old network administrator at a bank in Oxford always knew he wanted to adopt. But as a single man the process proved difficult. He persevered. A year ago, he was finally matched with Joseph, then 13, who had bounced through several foster homes after he and other siblings were taken into state custody when Joseph was eight. Taylor says his future son had a strange question when they first met:
“ 'Will you make me get my hair cut?' Hair is hair. No, I won’t make you get it cut. Children in the system have so little control over themselves and where they go. They can have control over their hair as far as I’m concerned.”
After a year of fostering, the adoption was finalized just over a week ago. Of course, says Taylor, the process wasn’t always smooth sailing:
“Most kids have a honeymoon period, and Joseph did, too. They are on their best behavior. They don’t want to be rejected again. But then they start testing. They may or may not realize what they are doing. They will do certain things to try to get you to kick them out. Because they’ve been rejected so often it’s a self-defense mechanism.”
In Mississippi, roughly 570 children are currently in foster homes, most already in adoptive placements. But, says Margie Shelton, the director of the adoption unit at the Mississippi Department of Human Services, roughly 120 of those children are still waiting for a permanent home.
Most women when they think of adoption they are looking at infants or babies or very young children. They don’t think about adopting children who are already eight or ten years of age.”
But it’s exactly in this older age range that adoptions are much faster, reducing the difficult wait time for those yearning to become parents. Back in Oxford, Taylor is still in awe of his new official status.
“I have a son now. That is just amazing. I have a son that I love and will love no matter what he does.”
Last month, Taylor got engaged to a single mom who’ll be bringing her teenage daughter to the new family. Together they are planning on adopting more children. For more on how to adopt domestically through the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services go online to adoptUSkids.org.
Sandra Knispel, MPB News, Oxford.
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